Kevin Menezes

Loved and Saved by God alone to Love and Serve God alone.


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Marriage: You Said ‘Yes’

​Let me break this down for the benefit of people who really need to hear this.

MARRIAGE is a COMMITMENT. 

– You are supposed to go to work

– You are supposed to put bread on the table

– You are supposed to take care of your wife and kids  

– You are supposed to fix things around the house

– You are supposed to take out the trash 

– You are supposed to mend broken toys and broken hearts

– You are supposed to hug and kiss it all away

And you are supposed to do all of that again and again in good times and bad, sickness and health until the very end… 
Because you promised you would, remember? So don’t act like you are doing your wife and kids a favour. 

And parenting is more than just putting food on the table. It is about love, it’s about holding hands and holding hearts, it’s about nurturing, mentoring and being there every time your child needs you. If you can’t do that then don’t bother having kids. 
If you wanted to do your own thing you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. 
What’s the benefit of having you around? What’s so special about you? How does having you for a dad benefit your kids? Do you bring peace and joy into the lives of the people you claim to love, or do you bring trauma? What do people get when they get you?
How you treat your wife and kids says a lot about you. Anyone who does not take care of his family has denied the faith and should not expect God to answer his prayers at all. Don’t expect God to do for you what you won’t do for your own wife and kids.

Now, if you agree with everything I said here, and you’ve tried to straighten things out, but you just can’t seem to get it right no matter how hard you try, you need help. You need to splay yourself before the God of all creation and beg for help. Change always begins with repentance. Ask and you will receive, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened.


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Biblical Solutions for Property | Inheritance Disputes

The Bible offers sound advice on almost all issues pertaining to life. If people followed these percepts, the world would be a much better place. Consider, for instance, the number of families ripped apart by property disputes. Brothers not talking to brothers, children not talking to parents…it’s tragic. The courts are clogged with property cases and people have been waiting for judgement for years, which is crazy when you consider that the Judge of all Creation pronounced His verdict on these issues thousands of years ago. Here’s a sampling:

What is the proper order of succession to inheritance?

According to the Bible, God meant for inheritance to be patrilineal. In other words, the father bequeaths only to his male descendants, thereby ensuring the property stays in the family line. Numbers 36:8-9 affirms that God meant for people to inherit the property of their ancestors so that property would not pass from one tribe to another. Instead, each tribe would continue to possess its own property.

Illustration: My grandfather Martin Peres had five children (two sons and three daughters). The daughters married into other families and took their husband’s names (Menezes, D’Souza, Barretto). The elder son Victor Peres never married and therefore has no children. The younger son Jeffery Peres has two children, a son and a daughter. Now, when Victor makes his will, he should bequeath his share of the ancestral property to Jeffery. But what if for some reason Jeffery happens to pass away before Victor? Can Victor bequeath his share to his sisters? The answer is No. According to the Bible, Victor should then bequeath his share to Jeffery’s son, because he carries the family name Peres. Each tribe should continue to possess its own property. Peres property should stay with Peres, D’Souza property with D’Souza, Menezes property with Menezes, and Barretto property with the Barrettos.

But what if a man has no sons to whom he can bequeath his inheritance to?

Good question. Although daughters were to have no part in their father’s inheritance (because when they married they would become stakeholders in their husband’s estate), there are some exceptions. According to the Bible, whenever a man dies without leaving a son, his daughter is to inherit his property. If he has no daughter, his brothers are to inherit it. If he has no brothers, his father’s brothers are to inherit it. If he has no brothers or uncles, then his nearest relative is to inherit it and hold it as his own property. (Numbers 27.8-11)

What if a man has two sons? How should he divide his property among them?

When the man decides how he is going to divide his property among his children, he is not to show partiality. He is to give a double share of his possessions to his first son. A man must acknowledge his first son and give him the share he is legally entitled to. (Deuteronomy 21:16-17)

Illustration: I have two sons. When i get ready to divide my inheritance between my boys, I must ensure my elder son Moshe gets a double portion. How do I do that? I must first divide my inheritance into three equal portions. One portion goes to Moshe and the second goes to Aharon. Now, there is one portion still remaining. I must give that portion to Moshe so that he will have a double portion.

Does the logic seem a little unfair? To secular minds it might. Fact is I do love both my sons, but Moshe is the beginning of my strength and the first one to answer to my name. He will be the head of the family when I am gone and would be expected to watch out for his brother too. If Moshe had a sister and if her husband treated her badly, he would be expected to take her under his wing and provide for her as well. The Bible says to whomsoever much is given, of him will much be required (Luke 12:48). God did not bestow more to firstborns so that they could squander it all away. He did it so that they could use it to fulfill their duty as head of the family.

But what if the firstborn is irresponsible and refuses to fulfill his duty? Well, frankly speaking, what people do with the money entrusted to them is their concern. It is between them and their Creator. God entrusted firstborns with more and they are accountable to Him alone. God decides how much each one should get. Take what is yours and go your way. (Matthew 20:14).

Yes, there are people who consciously delight in doing wrong. But there are countless others who yearn to do the right thing. They only need someone to explain to them what the right thing is. This article is a very small effort to decipher and demystify certain Biblical codes that will help you to handle your property properly. In fact, how you react to what is written here can also tell you a lot about yourself. If you cannot find rest in the Word of God, it is very unlikely that you will find rest any where else. Why? Because like the rich young man who loved his riches too much to follow Jesus, you also love money and the things of this world more than you love God and His commands.

Some people think the Bible is outdated and does not make sense. Well, truthfully, there are a lot of things in this world that don’t make any sense. But when people try to put their own spin on things (mostly to benefit themselves), they start wars. It is up to each of us to decide what road we are going to take. We always have at least two choices. It’s either God’s way or the highway.

If you choose the highway, prepare to burn bridges, lose sleep and burn a ton of money chasing lawyers and dates in courthouses. If you choose God’s way, peace, happiness and prosperity will be your constant companions.

Personally, I’d much rather go with the Chief Architect. God did not make rules for us to understand them, He made rules so that we could obey them. And if that’s how God wants it, then that’s how it should be.


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God And The Baby

We live in world where everything revolves around money, which is supposedly the root of all evil. But think about it for a moment. Is money by itself bad? No, it isn’t. Money can also be used for good purposes. What really causes some people to do things they shouldn’t is not money per se, but the love of it. And the more money we have, the more we want. It’s a never-ending cycle that feeds off itself.

This is precisely why it does not make sense to put life on hold until we have “enough” money. People who do that are simply asking for trouble. Unfortunately, most people living in today’s money-minded world do not see it that way.

These days, most married couples prefer to have just one kid. Some others prefer not to have kids at all.

Several factors, such as the desire to live the “good” life, or the desire to cut “unnecessary” costs, influence this decision. After all, babies are expensive, right? Well, they could be, especially if the parents spoil them by playing to the whims of a materialistic society. Otherwise, having a baby is quite inexpensive.

In fact, one cannot put a price tag to the joy, happiness and contentment a child brings into the home. If we could, we would find that the benefits of having a baby far outweigh the costs.

But most people don’t know this. So they resort to just about everything – pills, external contraceptives, vasectomy, even murder – to not have a baby. (Um, did I say “murder”? Oh! My bad. I meant to say “abortion”.)

Needless to say, God is not pleased.

When we married, my wife Sharel and I were very clear about certain things. We would not conform to the ways of the world, especially if it meant having to snub God. We were (and still are) very determined to live by the Word.

The Bible says don’t worry about anything. Just do what God wants you to do and He will take care of all your needs (Philippians 4). If that is what God has promised, then it is good enough for me.

My pastor always said, “If God decides to bless you with a child, He will also provide you the means to take care of that child. God will incur the expenses. Just trust Him.”

And that is exactly what we did. We didn’t have our baby with one eye on our bank balance; we had him with both eyes fixed firmly on God.

Did it pay off?

More than we could imagine.

First, in an age where an increasing number of births are through the C-section, my wife had a normal delivery. Also, she was in labor for less than half the average time it takes first-time mothers.

Second, less than a month after the birth of our son, I received a 20 percent increment in my salary. I also received a bonus that covered all hospital and delivery-related expenses. The total increase in my annual earnings? Almost 30 percent!

In retrospect, I did not pay a dime to bring my child into the world, despite having him delivered by one of the best doctors in one of the finest hospitals in the country. Also, the increment more than covers the cost of everything he will need in future. God took care of everything just as He promised.

I smile to myself sometimes when I think about it because it is beautiful and also a little funny. Out in the world, people think having a lot of children does not make economic sense. And here God is paying us to have babies and raise them for Him. Like the Bible says: The wisdom of this world is foolishness to God. In retrospect, God is using what is unwise in the eyes of the world to show us how foolish the ways of the world are.

Yes, to be certain, not every couple who has children by the dozen is blessed financially. I see people who have many children, but not enough to get by—not enough food to put on the table.

Why is that so?

I guess it is because that kind of blessing comes with a precondition—a prerequisite: You must have and raise all your children for the Lord.

When I think back, that’s exactly what we did. We consecrated our baby, the first fruit of our union, to God even before he was conceived. And right away I knew in my heart that it would be a boy because God said all firstborn are mine, especially if they are male.

We are expecting our second baby soon. Since we strongly believe that every child is a blessing from above, it made a lot of sense to us to let God decide when we should have our second baby. Most people think a three-year gap between children is ideal. Most people will also find it hard to believe that despite never having resorted to any family planning method, our second baby is due just about when our first will turn three.

Talk about perfect timing. God knows all about it.

The problem is people don’t trust God enough to let Him decide what’s best for them. I am happy to testify that whenever my wife and I took a leap of faith, we found God right there waiting to catch us. He was backing us up all the time.

So this is my advice: Never base the major decisions of your life, especially the decision to have children, on how much money you have in the bank. If you do, chances are you may have neither children nor money in the end. Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and everything else you need will be added unto you. (Matthew 6:33) When you figure out what this scripture really means, write it on your heart.

The Bible says children themselves are a blessing (Psalm 127:3). And since they actually belong to God, He faithfully provides for every child He brings into the world. We, the parents, are just the caretakers.

In retrospect, everything God asks us to do is for our own good. Unfortunately though, most people are not willing to let go of the semblance of control they think they have over what goes on in their life. They prefer to do as they please, but when they start facing the consequences of their actions, they start looking for someone to blame. And when their search brings them to the mirror, they quickly turn around and try to find a suitable scapegoat. Ultimately, they blame God. That’s human nature: We take credit for all the good and blame Him for all the bad.

Are you one of those people giving God a hard time about doing (or not doing) something for you? Well, back off a little. We don’t need to convince God to do the right thing. It is in His very nature to do what’s best for everybody. So, take a breather. Don’t wear yourself out trying to get rich (Proverbs 23:4). You are not a money-machine. Money is a trap for those who are fascinated by it, a trap that every fool falls into (Sirach 31:7). Therefore, have the wisdom to show restraint.

Since we are not going to live forever, let’s focus on the things that really matter. If you are married and God blesses you with a child, thank Him and welcome the child joyfully. Remember, every child comes bearing rich gifts from heaven.

If you ever have the misfortune of having to consider an abortion, reflect on this: The child you plan to abort might just be your ticket to the happy, prosperous life you always desired. So be good to yourself and allow God to work a miracle in your life. Allow Him to bless you.

Do it for yourself!

Let me conclude with the story of my own child’s birth.

We welcomed our firstborn in March 2010.

I watched nervously as they wheeled Sharel into her room after the delivery. Then, a nurse arrived with our newborn baby.

She looked at me and asked, “Are you the father?”

“Yes.”

“Would you like to hold your baby?”

“No.”

Truth is I was afraid. How do you hold something so delicate and precious?

I think they call it “new dad anxiety”.

Then, the baby started crying. I watched as the nurse tried to pacify my son, but it was a lost cause.

I remember thinking to myself, “Man, you are the father. If you don’t hold your own baby, who will?”

“Okay. Give him to me,” I said.

The nurse gently laid him in my arms. The baby instantly stopped crying.

She smiled and said, “He knows who you are.”

“Yes,” I replied, smiling at the babe in my hands, “I am his father.”

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Got No Money? Good!

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It is better to have a purpose in life and no money than to have all the money in the world and no purpose in life.

The Bible talks about how when God freed the Israelites from the yoke of slavery, He also inclined the hearts of the Egyptians to give them clothing and articles of silver and gold.

Not very long thereafter, the “newly moneyed” Israelites camped at Sinai while Moses went up the Mount to meet God.

With nothing interesting to do except wait for Moses, who apparently was in no hurry to return, the Israelites grew restless. What’s more, they had so much gold and silver just lying around. So they did what most people with lots of money and no purpose would do. They used it to entertain themselves. First, they molded all the gold in the shape of a calf. Then, they worshipped it. And because we become what we worship, soon thereafter, the Israelites started acting like animals.

It’s the same today.

Look at most rich kids. Dad and Mom are too busy to spare any time for them. But, gee, Dad’s got some spare change. “Here, Kid, why don’t you put that to good use? Go and buy yourself something you like…anything. And remember never to forget that your Dad loves you. And this big wad of cash will show you just how much.”

In the beginning, these kids buy themselves some candy, toys, etc. But there’s only that much satisfaction you can gain from that. So they graduate to video games, alcohol, drugs, fast cars, etc. Obviously, after some time even that is not enough. So, it’s more alcohol, more drugs…

Most rich kids today are more than happy to spend money they haven’t earned on things they don’t need. Eventually, these kids either end up in the ditch, or in rehab, or in prison, or in the grave…or in all of the above.

God does not like it one bit.

The real reason why God does not answer some people when they pray for riches is not because He can’t give them what they want. He chooses not to because He knows they can’t handle it.

I face a similar problem with my two-year-old sometimes. He wants me to get him a bicycle that is obviously way too big for him. He wails for it every time we happen to walk by a bike store. Truthfully, it is no big deal for me to get him that bike. In fact, I want to. But right now that bike would do him more harm than good. He needs to wait until he grows a little more. Then, he’ll enjoy it to the fullest. My son does not realize that and wonders why his ever-loving father won’t give him what he desires.

It’s the same with God. He wants us to have all the good things in life—money even. But sometimes He holds himself back because He knows what we are asking for could actually do us more harm than good.

So, if you are giving God a hard time about doing something for you, back off a little. When it’s dinner time, a child does not need to convince his parent that he should be given something to eat. The parent lovingly reaches for the plate and serves up the good stuff…and a little more. We need to give God more credit than we do.

Got no money? Good!

You’ll get it eventually…if you deserve it.

But first get a purpose—and it better be good.


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Come As You Are

The world determines your worth based on what you have and what you can produce. If you’ve got a flashy car and bucket loads of cash, you are welcome everywhere.

But to God, you are already worth the whole world. He does not care if you have 10 pairs of shoes, or just one, or none at all. He says, “Come as you are and I’ll love you just as much. Just come.”