I know a man who loves his wife with all his heart, but he has never told her ‘I love you‘ even once because, um, he doesn’t roll that way. His love is very evident though in all the things he does for her and the kids. All she needs to do is read between the lines.
I know another guy who keeps telling his wife he loves her all the time, but he doesn’t do much of anything besides that. The family is more or less exactly where they were when they started. Same place, same problems. The only thing that’s moving up is their age.
Obviously, none of these blokes are really cutting the ice.
The first guy’s wife would happily do without half the things he’s buying her if he opened his mouth and told her just once, ‘You know what? I love you with all my heart.’
The second guy would probably do better to just shut up for a change and do something.
In movies, the heroes get away with just being cool. But in real life, you’ve got to do both: Talk the Walk and then Walk the Talk. There are no other options