My most ardent prayer today is that all children find love, peace and security in their own homes.
Although I never asked God for children, I rolled out the Red Carpet for them as soon as my wife conceived. I told my wife Sharel no child of ours will enter this world without a warm welcome from their father. I am their greatest cheerleader, one man welcoming committee, mentor, counsellor, friend, etc, etc all rolled into one.
It is really tragic that some men (and women) disown their kids and their responsibilities towards them even before they are born. I decided long ago that I would never disrespect God, my wife or myself by doing that. Children are a real blessing from God, and because they embody attributes of both the father and the mother, they are also the strongest declaration of your love — that the two of you are indeed one.
Think about it, guys. If we don’t welcome our own children into our lives, then who will? I can’t understand dudes who keep whining and blaming their wives for everything, from the timing of conception to the gender of the child.
Science has now proved that it is the gender of a child is determined by the father alone. If you give your wife an X chromosome it will be a girl; if you give her a Y chromosome it will be a boy. A woman has absolutely no say in the matter. So quit complaining and leave her alone. If you are man enough to make a baby, then also be man enough to take responsibility for your actions and stand up for your wife and kids.
How would you feel if you had to enter a place where no one wanted you? No child should have to go through that. What you want to hear instead is, “Don’t worry about a thing. Everything is taken care of. Just come. We’ll make you as comfortable as you can ever be. It may not be heaven, but it’ll be closest thing to heaven on earth. Come on over. We are waiting for you. We have you covered.”
Well, if that’s what you want to hear wherever you go, then that’s what you should be saying too.
Don’t go chasing after God, asking Him to bless you more if you haven’t learned how to handle what you have already been given with dignity and poise. If you reject your kids, you are rejecting God’s most generous endowment. And if you disown them, God will disown you.