Let me break this down for the benefit of people who really need to hear this.
MARRIAGE is a COMMITMENT.
– You are supposed to go to work
– You are supposed to put bread on the table
– You are supposed to take care of your wife and kids
– You are supposed to fix things around the house
– You are supposed to take out the trash
– You are supposed to mend broken toys and broken hearts
– You are supposed to hug and kiss it all away
And you are supposed to do all of that again and again in good times and bad, sickness and health until the very end…
Because you promised you would, remember? So don’t act like you are doing your wife and kids a favour.
And parenting is more than just putting food on the table. It is about love, it’s about holding hands and holding hearts, it’s about nurturing, mentoring and being there every time your child needs you. If you can’t do that then don’t bother having kids.
If you wanted to do your own thing you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place.
What’s the benefit of having you around? What’s so special about you? How does having you for a dad benefit your kids? Do you bring peace and joy into the lives of the people you claim to love, or do you bring trauma? What do people get when they get you?
How you treat your wife and kids says a lot about you. Anyone who does not take care of his family has denied the faith and should not expect God to answer his prayers at all. Don’t expect God to do for you what you won’t do for your own wife and kids.
Now, if you agree with everything I said here, and you’ve tried to straighten things out, but you just can’t seem to get it right no matter how hard you try, you need help. You need to splay yourself before the God of all creation and beg for help. Change always begins with repentance. Ask and you will receive, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened.