Kevin Menezes

Loved and Saved by God alone to Love and Serve God alone.

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Lip Service

It is quite easy to determine whether a person really loves God or is just paying Him lip service.

For instance, too much religious stuff – crucifixes, rosaries, scapulars, etc – on a person or in a person’s house does not mean such a person is close to God. On the contrary, it is very likely that such a person is far from God.

The real reason why people put images of God on the altar, on themselves and every where else is because they don’t have place for Him in their hearts. God, on the other hand, wants people to give Him his rightful place in their hearts; that’s why He forbids people from making idols and worshiping images of Him. (Read the 10 Commandments)

People whose hearts are far from God are also prone to “say” a lot of prayers, but they hardly pray. They say a bunch of by-hearted prayers, but their heart is not in it. They never pause to have a real conversation with God because their relationship with Him is not personal, it is transactional.

Such people are also very likely to attend mass religiously and say countless rosaries, not because they really love hanging out with God; they are just fulfilling their obligation. They don’t like missing Sunday mass because it really pricks their conscience. After all, it’s the only God-related activity they indulge in all week. For most of them, God is a Sunday to Sunday thing.

To such people Jesus says: “I am knocking on the door of your heart; if you hear my voice and open the door, i will come in and remain with you.”

This is an invitation. If you let Jesus into your heart, He will turn your life around for the best. Stop deceiving yourself. God is not fooled by anybody. He is not impressed by long prayers either. God only considers the heart. So, stop acting like the Pharisees. Jesus hated them because they loved their religious rituals more than they loved God.

It is no use going to church and singing “Oh! How i love Jesus” if you are going to keep breaking one Commandment after the other. Actions speak louder than words. If you really want to please God, repent of your sins and amend your ways.

What God really wants is a relationship with you. He wants you to hang out with Him and get to know Him better. He is waiting for His prodigal children to return.

Where are you going? What are you doing? Your Dad is waiting for you to come back home.

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Let Go

If you think you are busy now, wait till you get married. And if you think there aren’t enough hours in a day to do all that you want, wait till you have kids.

The biggest drain on marriages is that couples hardly have time for each other once the kids arrive on the scene. But here’s what i learnt:

Your firstborn should never take the place of your first love. After all, you did not marry for kids, remember? You married for love. Your kid(s) are a byproduct of that love.

Also, your relationship as a couple and your responsibilities as parents are two different things. You should not interlink the two.   You didnt marry your man because he was an experienced father; you married him because of how he made you feel, right? Besides, nobody is born with a degree in parenting. We all make mistakes. We learn on the job.

It is enough for me to know that my wife loves the kids as much as i do (possibly more) and she is doing her best. That is good enough.

So, next time you are tempted to be critical, i suggest you cut your spouse some slack. And instead of giving your spouse a hard time about their parenting skills, I suggest you just love them for who they really are. Because if you look up close, you’ll find someone trying just as hard to make it work.

Life is tough. Don’t make it harder. LET GO. Do it for your spouse. Do it for the kids. Do it for yourself.